While many today are claiming freedom, how much freedom are they actually experiencing?

How much do we deny certain aspects of life that causes us to grow and mature in life? Are you living in a bubble of love and bliss? Claiming freedom from conflict, declaring that conflict is no longer needed in your life?

We do get seasons of rest in between conflict but to graduate from it all together means you have arrived! There is no reason for you to be here anymore.

Now I am not talking about conflict that is just dysfunctional fighting and striving. Obviously, we need to be done with that kind of programming. But most who claim they are free from conflict and no longer believe in any healthy versions of conflict are living in denial.

And the only reason they are not experiencing conflict is because they have isolated themselves from growth and maturity. Again, there are seasons of rest in between growth spurts.

Healthy conflict allows room for treating people with respect, listening to others’ ideas, and considering those ideas during collaborative, iterative, and agile processes. Maintaining a diversity of thought and experience is crucial to building a healthy, fair, and inclusive culture.

Where we stop growing is in the absence of conflict. The only reason we see conflict as negative is because we still need healing in areas where we experienced negativity within our emotions.

We are not here to graduate being mankind or finite. We are here to experience what it means to be a person not a God. We are God that has everything already and decided to pretend to not be everything to experience all possibilities. To graduate from all the contradictions in life is to return to sender because you no longer desire to experience the reasons you are here.

We cannot know people without getting past their mental and emotional protections. Your best friends are those you have had conflict with. Shallow relationships have no conflict because there is no love there. Love digs deep and is willing to reason together to know each other and therefore know oneself.

It seems we cannot know ourselves without healthy conflict as well. We can throw out conflict that has no purpose. That which demands to be right. But healthy conflict is discovering one another as we stumble upon enlightenment. There has been so much arrogance is this oneness unconditional love movement in our day.

To many have fallen asleep in their conflict free reality. We get free from one program to find out we exchanged it for another program.

My posture in this is to enjoy the present embrace of whatever I am walking in. And to hold loosely my conclusion of who I am and where I am in this unveiling of identity. I am also aware of my own self manipulation to subliminally claim oneness where I am at odds with myself.

If people are brought into my life who are not where I am at, do I embrace them or do I defend my belief that conflict is not necessary for my life? Because I guarantee there will be conflict in order to go deep within each other’s hearts.

There isn’t anyone on the face of the earth who has graduated conflict. We might be in denial of it or in a season of rest from it. But ultimately, there is no diversity of community without interaction. And when we interact at a deep level we will encounter conflict. And conflict is beautiful when we are no longer seeing it as a negative but as the place for people to confront their own fears and learn to know themselves.

Conflict is inevitable! Because conflict is only the conclusion of what has not yet been understood. Conflict within myself comes when another points out my denials.

And where this is no longer needed for you is where you can no longer face yourself and no longer desire to know yourself. It seems that when we avoid conflict as though it is negative, we are avoiding trauma that is still trapped in our bodies and minds.

Communication invites one into another’s heart. The internal conflicts in the heart will feel like conflict to the other party. That conflict cannot negatively effect us unless we are hiding our own pain. The purpose is to face it, embrace it, and love those parts of you through relational connections.

Healthy conflict is when you can have your truth and others can have their truth, and you can talk about it. Striving is when you can’t talk about it and you choose to live in a fantasy world of being an untouchable.

Remember, this is a human experience. We don’t need deliverance from life. We don’t need to use spirituality to hide from life. We don’t have to label it good or bad. We can simply benefit from everything.